08.30.07
Seduction and Grooming are the same thing
Anthony Barron, rapist of female children, has been given a life sentence after being found guilty of a total of 89 offences, including rape and attempted rape, of at least ten girls, who were as young as 3. He made video and photographs of some of these assaults.
The mother of a four-year-old who was one of his victims said: “He came across as really nice, genuine, charming. A really nice person, is the only way to put it.
“[He appeared] caring and interested in how the children were doing, in some ways my welfare as well, after my husband and I separated.”
We are accustomed to hearing how children are ‘groomed’ by sexual predators, but it is rarely discussed how adults are also ‘groomed’. Grooming is the emotional manipulation of minors for sexual purpose. But men who rape children very often have to gain the trust of adult parents before they are able to access our children, and to do this they apply the same manipulation tactics. Not coincidentally these same tactics are very often used by men who rape adult women, in fact these tactics are condoned as authentic seduction methods when used on adult women. Seduction is the emotional manipulation of another person for sexual purpose. A mans success with this manipulation marks him as a ‘proper’ man, a real ‘ladykiller’. Adult women in a vulnerable emotional state, after a break up for example, are seen as ‘fair game’ and desirable targets for male manipulation/seduction.
Robert Greene’s book, The Art Of Seduction, contains the following chapers (quotes are from the website):
Choose The Right Victim
“Study your prey thoroughly.. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void.. They are often isolated or unhappy, or can be easily made so.”
Create a False Sense Of Security - Approach Indirectly
“If you are too direct too early on, you risk stirring up a resistance.. Haunt at the periphary of your target’s life - approach through a third party.. Lull the target into feeling secure, then strike.”
Create a Need - Stir Anxiety & Discontent
“Tension and disharmony must be instilled in your target’s minds. Stir within them feelings of discontent.. The feelings of inadequacy that you create will give you space to insinuate yourself.. Pain and anxiety are the proper precursors to pleasure. “
Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion
“The trick to making them listen is to say what they want to hear, to fill their ears with whatever is pleasant to them. This is the essence of seductive language.”
Isolate the Victim
“An isolated person is weak.. Give them the sense of being marginalized.. Lure the seduced into your lair where nothing is familiar.”
Take a look round the huge number of mens dating and seduction guides and you’ll see the same language over and over, the language of warfare and hunting. Male sexuality is overwhelmingly defined in popular culture as predatory. How can we as women trust any men when we know this, who can we trust when over and over men we thought were nice, genuine, and charming, are exposed as rapists and child molesters?
Christine Barron, the ex wife of the above child rapist, said:
I’m finding it terribly difficult to equate it with the man I knew. He loved children and children loved him. He wasn’t that kind of man as far as I knew. My family are shocked, I’m shocked.
Everybody thought they could trust him. He could be so charming, but obviously there was more to it than that.
